Put your iPod on shuffle. List the first 10 songs that play.
1. Clumsy- Fergie
2. Undo It- Carrie Underwood
3. Respect- Kelly Clarkson
4. Nobody But Me- Blake Shelton
5. Can’t Take My Eyes Off You- Fugees
6. My Favorite Girl- New Kids on the Block
7. Big Poppa- Notorious BIG
8. Show Me Love- Robyn
9. This I Swear- Nick Lachey
10. If I Had You- Adam Lambert
How has your financial situation affected your infertility journey?
My wife is REALLY good about budgeting and saving money so she has kept us on track. But it’s crazy to think of how much we have
wasted spent so far on everything. I guess our insurance is pretty good and we are lucky compared to other couples expenses.
All of our IUI’s were covered by our insurance. We just had the $10 co-pay and of course the baby juice which was about $800 per vial. All that sperm adds up pretty damn quickly and it’s a lot of money to put aside monthly so there were times when we were pretty much broke til the next pay period. Like Claudia’s new saying is, “there’s too much month at the end of the money.”
Then of course we moved onto fertility drugs. Our insurance covers prescriptions 50%. So for the injectable cycles we were paying $1200 (sperm and drugs) per cycle.
But now we are on the big whopper of IVF!! We have been saving for six months now and we finally have it all together. Our first plan was to do financing for the cycle but Claudia didn’t want to. She said she didnt want to be in debt before the baby was even born so she started working her butt off. She was doing sixteen hour shifts three or four days out of her five day work week. I am extremely thankful for all her hard work and determination in getting the money together. It’s been hard though putting all this money aside and still paying the mortgage, bills and other everyday expenses. But we fuckin did it and I love my wife for even making it possible for us.
So here’s to hoping that our money can now be spent on an actual baby and no more infertility expenses.
And with that, I leave you with our baby’s first T-shirts:
List 5 guilty pleasures
1. Wine night
2. Reality TV
3. Gossip Magazines
5. The Vampire Diaries
Were you a product of infertility?
Not at all!! My parents had 5 children and didn’t have any fertility issues with any of us.
My oldest brother was born when my mom was nineteen and my dad was twenty. They weren’t trying to get pregnant. Five years later they decided they wanted to add another kid into the mix and just like that *voila* I entered the world. When I was three years old my parents had an “oops” moment and my youngest brother was born. As I got older I remember my mom taking birth control pills every night after dinner and I would even remind her to take them. I don’t think I fully understood what they were for back then but decided it was my job to keep her on top of it (now all these years later and I can’t seem to remind myself to take the damn things). Anyways, when I was in fifth grade my mom stopped taking the pills and before I knew it she was pregnant again. My little sister was supposed to be the last baby but lo and behold, when I was fifteen my parents had another “uh oh” moment and my youngest sister was born. My mom was forty and my dad forty-one. She tied her tubes right after the birth. If not, I might have had another sibling or two to write about. Lucky, fertile woman!!
I’m so excited it’s Friday!!! I’ve been looking forward to this weekend for over a month now. My wife and I are going to dinner and a comedy show (Anjelah Johnson) tomorrow with my parents, two brothers and their girlfriends. Can’t wait.
List 5 pet peeves
1. People who talk in movie theatres
2. Noisy eaters/chew with mouth open
3. Bad customer service
4. People on Facebook that purposely spell words wrong (I think it takes longer trying to figure out how to spell the damn word wrong than it does to spell it right!)
5. Fertile woman. Ha. JK…well kinda
I must say, I’m so glad that I never had to rely on birth control to prevent pregnancy because these last few days I’ve realized that I’m horrible about remembering to take it.
What is your favorite infertility-related quote? It doesn’t have to be explicitly related to infertility, but one that means something to your personal journey.
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”
“Don’t be discouraged. It’s often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock.”
I sure hope so because I am definitely about to try my last key.
If you could have 3 wishes, what would they be?
1. Get pregnant with my first IVF cycle.
2. Have a healthy, baby in my arms in February.
3. My marriage to continue getting stronger as the years go on and remain the healthy, honest, loving and fun one it is now.
I have my saline sonogram schedule for next Tuesday, May 1st. So til then I just need to continue my birth control and we will have further instructions after that.
I can’t believe it’s already going to be May. The time was dragging so very slooooowly and now May is just around the corner. I’m getting super excited.
DAY 16: Have you ever bonded with someone IRL over infertility, even just for a few minutes? It could be a family member, friend, neighbor, or even the clerk at the grocery store who noticed you OPK and vitamin purchase. Tell the story.
I unfortunately haven’t bonded with anyone over this experience in real life. This TTC journey has been very personal to me and I don’t like talking about it (unless I’m blogging). I have always been very private person and I’m not good at expressing my feelings so it’s just easier for me to continue like everything is ok. A couple of my friends know that we are trying to have a baby and if they ask then I will tell them where we are at the moment with everything. I’m not going to lie about it but they just don’t understand. I don’t want to hear “it will work out” “stop stressing” “give it time” “it will happen when you least expect it.” That last one really pisses me off because in case you haven’t noticed, I’m a lesbian!!! So no there is no “oops moment” for us. Everything we do is calculated and on a schedule. It’s just better to keep our struggles to myself when talking to people in real life. I have a community of women in the same boat as me on this site so that helps me a lot. I’m happy with expressing myself here and bonding with people that I can actually relate to.
I finally got my period!! I have never been so excited to start it but I’m happy it finally decided to make an appearance. I took my first birth control pill yesterday and now I am waiting for the nurse to call me back with an appointment for my saline sonogram. Things are finally starting!
List 5 things you want to do before you die.
- Have some babies!!
- Do lots more traveling
- Have an actual wedding ceremony to celebrate with family and friends.
- Do something that scares the shit out of me (sky diving, ride a hot air balloon or bungee jump).
- Open my own bakery.
Tell us about your funniest Clomid/Follistim/injectables mood-swing story. If you don’t have one, tell us your funniest general infertility drug story.
I don’t have any funny stories to share. The side effects were pretty much non-existent with the fertility drugs, except for the occasional headache. Sorry I don’t have a better answer but that’s all I got for today.